Sex. give me 5 minutes and I could probably give you more than 500 words/phrases/jokes that has some sort of sexual connotation. if it weren’t for the fact that we’re “friends”(actually the term ‘people that I happen to know’ is more accurate), most of the girls I know would’ve filed sexual harassment suits against me by now (for those who don’t know, I have this terrible habit of making lewd comments every now and then, so that pretty much explains everything). anyway that’s besides the point. the thing is, whether we realize or not, sex actually has a great impact in our everyday lives. pleasure... love...family... the human beauty...all these are actually related to sex in some way or another. however, although we all seem to know abt sex, or at least claim to know what it is, but when you actually give it a thought, do we really understand what sex is truly all abt?
apart from being a form of gender classification, sex (or should I say sexual intercourse in particular), by definition is “the physical union of male and female genitalia accompanied by rhythmic movements usually leading to the ejaculation of semen from the penis into the female reproductive tract”(source: Merriam-Webster Online). however, bear in mind that any other activity which brings the same feeling/stimulation as your standard vaginal penetration can also be considered as sex or sexual in nature (thus proving that Bill Clinton’s claim that oral sex is not sex was incorrect). and the purpose of sex? I’ve been searching on the net for various info abt sex prior to the writing of this entry and all I can say is that there are way too many theories abt why we have sex. but the most obvious and most common you’ll prolly find anywhere is that sex is primarily intended for procreation.
the Darwinian Evolutionary theory suggests that the desire of humans to reproduce is instinctive. it is a program genetically-embedded in each and every one of us. in Plato’s Symposium, one of the main characters suggested that humans reproduce to gain “immortality”, passing along our genes to ensure that our traits, character, and our legacy lives on forever. whatever the reasons for human reproduction may be, making babies is definitely the main objective why we have sex. or at least, it used to be the main objective. from the looks of things nowadays, it appears that most ppl have sex just for pleasure. I’m not saying it’s wrong to feel good while humpin’, but if that’s your sole reason for doing it in the first place, then I can’t help but feel how greatly distorted our perception of sex has become.
so on what basis do I claim that sex is primarily intended for reproducing? it is said that the only creatures that experience pleasure while having sex are dolphins and humans (though I’m not too sure abt the former since I couldn’t find any credible evidence on the net to support that claim. still, if it’s true, then Flipper must be one lucky bastard). every other animal known in existence just fuck each other for one and only purpose: reproduction. things are even shittier for bacterias and microorganisms since they can only reproduce asexually (now how disappointing is that?). so with these facts in mind (that almost every single living thing screw for the sole reason of procreation), it’s only logical to assume that we humans have sex with the ultimate intention of churning out babies and nothing more than that. any other ‘benefit’ (such as pleasure) that comes with the process of reproducing can only be considered ‘an additional feature’. nevertheless, one interesting theory that I came up with is that we need to enjoy ourselves while having sex (unlike other creatures) because we are complex beings with thoughts and emotions. since we humans have feelings, our emotional attachments to those around us are very fragile, meaning that we can feel hurt or lose trust when we experience sth painful or unpleasurable. and by making sex pleasurable, it makes the whole activity more likeable, altogether strengthening the bond between the two mating individuals and simultaneously increasing their likelihood to copulate. makes sense, no?
if you’re still not convinced, go ahead and ask any guy who plans to get married. I’m sure most of ‘em would say they’d love to have children and since this is achievable through a love-makin’ session, doesn’t that prove that sex’s primary role is to procreate? some of you might argue that ppl have sex in the name of love. pfft. well I say that the majority of any perfectly sane guy who’s in love would ultimately want kids in some way or another (hey, even I can already imagine having imcp jr. 10 years from now). so it’s still having sex with the goal of passing down the genes. no doubt abt it. although I’m sure some (if not most) of you girls out there would love to argue that there are women who get married and have sex without the slightest intention of having babies at all, but then again, we all know that any reason why women have sex aren’t important anyways (heh,heh,heh).
now let’s take a look at those who screw around just for pleasure. ahh...yes....the unbounded craving of the flesh. the heavenly feeling of fulfilling one’s own lust. chugging out your sperms or spreading out your legs without the slightest care in the world. and what comes from it? guilt...embarrassment...unwanted pregnancies... unplanned parenthood...fatherless children...babies in dumpsters...prostitution...unprotected sex and HIV... all of ‘em the result of perceiving sex as nothing more than something you do for your own self-satisfaction. if only ppl thought that the sole purpose of having sexual intercourse is for procreation, then maybe ppl would start considering sex as an incredibly huge risk. it’s abt preparing to face whatever the consequences may be as a result from your intercourse, making sure that you take good care of your spouse, and being responsible and mature enough for the possibility of bringing another life into this world. but NOOO...all that ppl care abt sex today is making yourself feel happy and enjoying every moment from ‘the ultimate ride of your lifetime’.
some girls might say that they were actually persuaded/coerced/pressured to have sex. well that's just dumb. if your boyfriend asks you for some lovin’ with the stupid reason that “he needs you to show him how much you care for him”, chances are he’s more interested in having a good time himself while not considering the many possible negative repercussions of pre-marital sex. use your head you nincompoop. have some dignity and don’t be a dumbass. it ticks me off every time I hear some chick bitching how it is unfair that girls must bother to sacrifice and maintain their virginity until marriage for men. “that’s gender oppression!!!”, or so they say. sure it is you stupid bitch. go ahead and fuck around with anyone you want so that you won’t feel “oppressed” having to maintain your ‘purity’. you’ve then just confirmed yourself as a bargained-basement slut with no sense of self-respect who would screw any attractive guy you meet, so don’t bother complaining when men consider you nothing more than a sex-object because that’s exactly what you are, a mere object that provides pleasure and satisfaction to horny, sex-starved guys.
perhaps, it can be said that part of the problem with our misguided perception of sex is because we lack “proper” sexual education. back in the old days, sex is not exactly sth you discuss openly. in fact, the topic of sex or sexuality is still considered a taboo to some even in today’s age. so in the end, most of us grew up learning abt the birds and the bees from our friends or the media (particularly porn), picking up the many ideas abt sex regardless whether it’s true or not. children who ask their parents where babies come from end up being told some shitty fairy-tale that somehow involves storks or cabbage patches. poor brats. I myself never knew where babies come from until I was 11. and I only watched my first ‘true’ porn when I was in Form 3 (in case you’re wondering, flicks with passable nude/sexually-suggestive images are not counted as porn unless it involves plenty of mindless sex scenes which don’t make sense at all). and even then, a year later I was still arguing/discussing with a fellow classmate which “hole” do guys insert their dicks into. frustrated, we actually approached our biology teacher for an answer and to our dismay, we didn’t exactly get what we wanted. it took me several more years to figure it out myself. and frankly speaking, I never knew what’s the difference between the vulva and the vagina until my Human Sexuality class last semester. pretty sad huh? but that’s the reality. not every single one of us has some sort of proper sex education so it’s no real surprise if we have some perverted view of what sex really is.
maybe it’s just because we take sex for granted. we think sex is something to be learned naturally so we don't need any textbook to teach us what to do or how do we do it. although that may be true to a certain extent, we cannot deny that many of the “informal teachings” abt sex that we receive have caused more harm that we may realize. imagine the horror of what could happen as a parent, when you find out that little jimmy has learned why it feels nice to put his wang into cousin emma’s "camel-toe-shaped apparatus", just by watching the porn video you rented last night to watch with your wife. then again, I guess I can understand it’s not exactly easy for any parent to talk abt sex and babies with their curious 6/7 year old sons or daughters. sure there are more ‘open-minded’ ppl nowadays who don’t mind talking abt sex freely but whether they can truly provide their children with an effective teaching abt sex is sth you have to really ponder abt. wonder what kind of bullshit will I feed to my kids then. I guess only time will tell...
